When I’m working with a couple, it’s not ALL about the mom. It’s about YOU too. Here’s how I support dad’s during pregnancy, labor and birth:
During pregnancy, I work with you both to make sure you not only know WHAT mom wants, but WHY she wants it. So when the time arrives, you will know how to advocate for her when she’s "busy" with her labor.
"Should it take this long?", "Is it okay to do xyz?", "Is that normal?", "When should we leave for the hospital?" — I am there to answer questions. I also have a lot of experience with the wide range of normal during labor. I know what’s normal and what is not. I can be there to assure you when things are normal, as well as keep a trained eye out for anything that might need attention.
At some point, you’re going to need to eat or use the restroom. I’m there to step in so you can tend to your body’s needs without worrying about leaving her alone.
Labor can take a long time. 18-36 hours is not unusual. Mom has the assistance of hormones to keep her going. You, however, do not. Dads often become exhausted before baby arrives. I am there to spell you so you can take a little break or even catch a short nap so you can be awake and focused when your baby does arrive. I can also help you manage your energy levels by reminding you to eat and drink and how to provide physical support without wearing yourself out.
Speaking of wearing yourself out...if mom has been walking for the last 4 hours and you just can’t go another lap...I’m there to relieve you. If mom has back labor and need continuous counter-pressure on her lower back, and your arms are about to fall off...I’m there to give you a break.
So, things are moving along nicely and mom wants her back rubbed. Only, every time you touch her, she growls at you. I’m there to show you HOW to massage her in a way that soothes her(as a laboring woman) rather than irritating her.
If/when your care provider suggests some kind of intervention, and you need to make a decision, but can’t remember what your childbirth educator said about that procedure...I’m there to remind you of risk/benefit/alternative information so the two of you can make an informed choice. Note: This will be information YOU provide me with before hand and I will NOT be giving you medical advice.
If, for any reason, mom and baby need to be separated, I can stay with one while you stay with the other. This way, no one is left alone with no one to advocate for them.
Once baby arrives, I can help out with taking photos of the whole family for you to send to your friends and family announcing your new arrival and help mom with breastfeeding.
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